Because they could always be cancelled at the last minute. For no reason. If my NMother suddenly didn't feel like going somewhere, then nobody would go. The same applied to every type of trip. Grocery shopping, clothes shopping, doctor's appointments, coffee with friends, etc. Those plans could be cancelled at the last minute. I guess I see plans as mainly useless and inflexible. I plan things like 5 people + get togethers or large scale work projects, but I think events with 2 to 4 people rarely need planning. In addition, I think plans lead to insincere behavior like "Oh I'd like to, but I promised X" or "made plans to X". The thoughts of canceling also come up then. Not necessarily as many people with autism like to stick to schedules and plans created, ideally over longer periods of time. For example, we like to get up at the same time every day, eat the same for breakfast, leave the house at the same time, etc So it could be that it seemingly is outside his Canceling plans WITH the truth? I don't think I've ever said, "hey, I'm canceling our plans last minute, again, because I don't want to go". I've been canceling plans for most of my adult life, so I feel like I've run out of excuses. It is hard to believe, but I got married 3 months ago, so I have a husband now. Respecting each others time is super important for me. Also I'm autistic so sudden change of plans can give me a breakdown. I've learned not to make proper plans with people who aren't on time or prone to cancel, but it still of course happens and as long as they have a good reason I manage to deal with it. . 2. Start prepping the letdown early. A few days before your scheduled outing, start planting the bailout seeds. “Hey,” you’ll text with sticky soy sauce fingers from your third order of sushi takeout this week, “I’m not sure I’ll be able to make it on Saturday.”. You don’t have to formulate an excuse just yet. Not cool lol. If you agree that it is a good idea to postpone plans when either of you are in a bad mood, then of course you should cancel next time you feel blah. However, if you are doing it only as to "one up" her, then it is not a good idea. You are just trying to get back at her if you do that and that is not good for the relationship. Women seem to cancel dates last minute a lot in my experience. We can speculate why for various situations, but I’m wondering how I as a man should… Now, I understand plans can change due to life and stuff but given that she knew full well today was the last day she could see me before the two weeks pause kind'a hurts. I don't want to be an asshole here, but I am upset because I was looking forward to seeing her and last minute cancellation ugh. The main thing I don't understand.. why conpletely change plans based in one persons idea that usually is poor anyway. Be a man and tell them you hate that last minute shit and you'd rather not go. You don't have to feel guilty for not submitting to peer pressure. If they don't like it, they can go fuck themselves.

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